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Moving Forward with Hope and Faith after Narcissistic Abuse and Divorce

Divorce is never easy, but the effects can be devastating when it involves a narcissistic partner. Narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling hopeless, powerless, and broken. But as a Christian woman, you have access to the greatest source of hope and healing: God. In this blog post, we will explore how you can move forward with hope and faith after narcissistic abuse and divorce, with encouragement specifically for Christian women.

Understanding Narcissistic Abuse

Before we dive into how to move forward, let's first look at what narcissistic abuse is and how it can impact you. Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional and psychological abuse characterized by manipulation, gaslighting, and a lack of empathy from the abuser. Narcissists are often charming and charismatic, but they can be controlling, abusive, and manipulative behind closed doors. They may use tactics such as gaslighting (making you doubt your perceptions and experiences), projection (blaming you for things they are guilty of), and triangulation (bringing in a third party to create tension and confusion). The effects of narcissistic abuse can be long-lasting and far-reaching. You may struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). You may also have difficulty trusting others, setting boundaries, and forming healthy relationships.

Moving Forward with Hope and Faith

Although it may feel overwhelming and impossible initially, there is hope for healing and moving forward after narcissistic abuse and divorce. Here are some steps you can take to move forward with hope and faith:

Seek Professional Help

One of the most important things you can do is seek professional help. A therapist or counselor can help you process the trauma of narcissistic abuse, heal from the emotional wounds, and learn healthy coping mechanisms. If you are a Christian woman, consider finding a therapist who shares your faith and values. They can help you integrate your faith into healing and provide spiritual guidance and support.

Lean on Your Faith

As a Christian woman, your faith can be a powerful comfort and strength during this difficult time. Take time to pray, read your Bible, and attend church. Surround yourself with other believers who can offer encouragement and support. God promises never to leave or forsake us, even in our darkest moments. "When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you" (Isaiah 43:2).

Practice Self-Care

Self-care is essential during the healing process. Take time to do things that bring you joy and relaxation, whether taking a bubble bath, going for a walk in nature, or reading a good book. Make sure to prioritize your physical health by getting enough sleep, eating a balanced diet, and exercising regularly.

Set Boundaries

Narcissists thrive on control and manipulation, so setting boundaries is crucial. Identify what behaviors are unacceptable to you and communicate them clearly to your ex-spouse. Stick to your boundaries, even if difficult, and be prepared to enforce consequences if necessary. Remember, setting boundaries is not about punishing your ex-spouse but protecting yourself and your emotional well-being.


Forgiveness is a complex but necessary step in the healing process. Forgiving your ex-spouse does not mean excusing their behavior or reconciling with them. It simply means releasing the anger, bitterness, and resentment you may be holding onto. Forgiveness is a process, and it may take time to entirely remove the hurt. But as you forgive, you free yourself from the emotional bondage of the past.

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